On “Fixing”

Beauty + Brains photo by Phil Eastman Last night I was conversing with a friend about the desire to “fix” someone in a relationship. It’s a common source of hardship in love.  As we grow closer to our partner, we learn of their struggles, vulnerabilities and shame, and being empathic creatures (as I believe is true of most humans) we begin to wish to help them heal these wounds. Except we can’t. Plain and simple. We do not have the power to heal another through sheer will. We can offer support, encouragement, be the best cheerleader we can be, but...

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